REVIEW : Revenge Porn (By N. H. Koah) or the Drug that Love Is …

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Cameroonian worldwide known football player Samuel Eto’o’s ex-girlfriend Nathalie Koah, officialy drops her new « Revenge Porn » book in a few days. 223 pages of a testimony … Of a love, sex and money life from the ex-lover of legendary African footballer, Samuel Eto’o.

Here is a review we hope you guys will fit in … Have a nice reading.

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Too little is often said about the counterproductive effect of love.

Passion is a drug as dangerous as the prohibited ones. The moment we gulp its intoxicating charms, we crave it all the more. Undeniably, passion is a desire that is tough to go without.  When we lose this desire, we enter a period of withdrawal, the same like when the body realizes the diminished intake of any of its addictions. We crave to be nourished by the nectar of love. This is how you can tell a person who is in love. Yes, we are nourished. We have strength, desire, ambition to conquer the world for our love. This huge emotion that nourishes our egos, feeds our courage and we feel on top of the world. But, that is certainly the same effect as heroine. We are high off emotion, and this is where love can be counterproductive. We make decisions based on our emotions forgetting that like other drugs, there is a thin line between love and its opposite and the effects of the opposite are the same like a drug overdose.

« Nathalie Koah, author of Revenge Porn … is a human, a woman with a real story and experience and a right to tell it as she lived it. »

It can build us up to this high point and just drop us, from there, from however high we are, we crash, we crumble, at the realization that what brought us so much joy can bring us so much pain. It is a blessing to experience a love that keeps us high all through. Sarah Spoors describes love the way many of us would hope when she says:

Having you in my life

Has made every day special,

I smile when I have you close

And treasure each and every moment.

Baby, just take my hand

So we can walk together

This journey that we are on

May climb hills, valleys and mountains

But once we’re home

We’re safe and sound

And together we’ll be forever.

I wasn’t sure I believed in love

Then I met you

I wasn’t sure I could make love last

Then I fell for you

I wasn’t sure who I was

What I wanted from life

But now I do

I thank you

From the bottom of my heart

For loving me through and through.

This is perhaps a small synopsis of the story that Revenge Porn tells. It is not atypical for ex-lovers to tell their life or love stories especially when these love stories were a defining moment in their lives. I cite Simone de Beauvoir, a legendary writer, intellectual, philosopher social theorist, feminist and political activist whose book “She Came to Stay” in 1943, divulges in detail her complex open love story with French Philosopher Jean Paul Sartre.

Nathalie Koah, author of Revenge Porn, may not be anything close to de Beauvoir but it suffices that she is a human, a woman with a real story and experience and a right to tell it as she lived it. Her book is an overt recital of her encounter with life, avarice, ambition, love, deception, sexuality, blackmail and all the vices that we are exposed to as humans. We discover a young girl from humble but honest backgrounds growing up in the median neighborhoods of Cameroon’s political capital, Yaoundé. A series of events in her childhood, notably the murder of her godmother and mysterious death of her father, lead her family from middle class to poor and shape her into the young teenager, overambitious, aspiring but certainly self-seeking and lustful for more comfort. It is no surprise that as soon as she blossoms into a young woman and opportunity to make money from the way she looks presents itself, she is ready.

There is nothing abominable about this, at least where she is born and bred. It is current in African culture, characterized by patriarchy, for men to see women as objects that can be seduced by material power. Not that these women entirely discourage this practice either. There is a long way to go to make our financial bargaining powers equal but I digress.

« Samuel Eto’o … The simple fact that he could have any interest in a girl like her is a source of overexcitement. »

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This recitation also depicts her glorious meeting with legendary African footballer; Samuel Eto’o who is the other protagonist of the story and needs no introduction. The simple fact that he could have any interest in a girl like her is a source of overexcitement. The writing here is top notch; the stuff that our favorite Harlequins and Telenovelas are made of. A clandestine romance is born. The footballer, already a family man, though not legally married, but who has a companion and children who Nathalie shows great reverence and respect for throughout her recital, reveals his true self to her with time in their relationship.

From his fondness for a ménage a trois to the numerous ladies at his disposal or the new life of luxury he exposes her to. Just like drugs, all of this is too late, the love already exists and there is the addiction. There is the need to go back despite the realization that this is a dangerous love. The more it persists to take us higher, the harder the fall is. To be liberated from this type of emotion, takes not only willpower, discipline and hard work and perhaps a sort of event like Nathalie’s granddad’s passing which was the final straw that broke the camel’s back. The book gives us a glimpse at the sexual and physical abuse, the blackmail, the threats, arbitral imprisonment and the kind of abuse that like her many ladies suffer in the hands of powerful men when love turns sour.

The recital definitely captures the interests of the target audience pulling us along emotionally throughout the recitation. In the beginning we are intrigued and want to know more, the climax is perhaps the meeting with Samuel at the infamous “La Nuit des Stars” in 2008 and there is a hunch of pity or pain, anything but definitely a compassion for the way this story ends. I will not dwell on the sexual practices of two adults as frankly that should never have been our business if one party had not allegedly decided to make it ours through revenge pornography.

« She is cured, through this process, of over ambition, avarice, and lust and most importantly of a dangerous love drug… »

Revenge Porn is the practice of the sexually explicit portrayal of people without their consent. This is now prohibited in over 26 states in America and most of Europe. This is a developing legal area and culprits have seen themselves convicted for up to 18 years already.  We can’t wish such an ordeal on our worst enemies. Even Adam was not comfortable naked before God. Our nudity is sacred. It is the price she had to pay, I guess for dining with the devil. It was at that moment love revealed itself to her on its other face. The face of counter productivity, evil, hate, wickedness and all other things that the bitterness of love turned sour can provoke in us. Love let her down from such a high point. Many victims find themselves at suicide’s door and successfully put to end a life they presume is now filled with shame and no longer has any meaning.

She tried too to end it all. Thankfully, she found a tiny will to live it out, the courage to face the broken heart and the deception, the disgrace, most importantly the courage to assume the consequences of her actions and to be able to tell a story today as a healed person. She is cured, through this process, of over ambition, avarice, and lust and most importantly of a dangerous love drug. This is closure. She can move on. In Life, we learn through the experience of others or through our own experiences. Experience is the best teacher. It has taught her and she can now teach many others of the importance of a life of dignity, honesty, love and truth.

 


 

Revenge Porn is an autobiography by Nathalie Helene Seraphine Koah of 223 pages published by Editions du Moments, 15 rue Condorcet, 75009 Paris and available as from February 18th 2016.

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